In Laura Broadwell’s
Parents blog, entitled “Age-by-Age Guide to What Children Understand About
Divorce,” she breaks down the normative behavioral patterns in children
in various age groups. For children from birth to 18 months, 18 months
to 3 years, 3 to 6 years, and 6 to 11 years old, Broadwell discusses the
common, negative reactions children will have at these ages, and what
parents can do to counteract them. As an imperfect science, Boradwell
focuses on general issues related to divorce.
The children in these younger categories, according to Broadwell, cannot
fully understand what divorce is, but will pick up on the tension within
a home. Keeping to the regular schedule and demonstrating stability are
key in these stages. As children get older, their reactions will become
more complicated but are rooted in insecurity and self-blame. This might
require extra effort to rebuild or strengthen self-esteem.
Parents here for Broadwell’s full article.